If you’ve been following my blog for any length of time you know that I have fibromyalgia as well as chronic pain issues that stem from degenerative disc issues, arthritis in my back, as well as other disc issues in my back. In other words, I’m a mess. 🙂 This post was one I’ve been meaning to write for a long time and then this blog hop came up and I knew it would be part of it. What I wasn’t planning on was ending up having a husband with pneumonia, a child that needed to go to the ER Monday afternoon (which took until 9pm) for a bladder infection, and then a son with pain when he breathed (which we found out is most likely super bad allergies). I ended up not being able to post the first two days of the blog hop because of all of this so it seemed apropos to post about homeschooling and doing life in general when you have to deal with illness. LOL
To be quite honest I’ve had a hard time figuring out how to do this whole homeschool life while struggling with barely being able to get out of bed. There have been so many days and many long, long seasons of my life where I literally have not been able to get out of bed except to use the rest room and shower and the shower water softener every few days. During these seasons not much schooling has happened. My oldest, who was the only one who needed to have school done at the time as the younger ones were at an age where it would have been nice but not as necessary, did his math almost daily and his language arts sporadically. Thankfully we use Math U See for math and he is good in math so he would watch the videos I would pull out sheets for him and grade them from bed. That is one good tip I have for you if you are stuck in bed frequently are immobile due to illness or pain is to get curriculum that have video components so that you can have them watch and learn and then discuss with you in bed.
I know at times it can be discouraging because you have a vision in your mind of being up, doing all these awesome science experiments, and history projects with your children, however that’s not where God has you now. I know dear heart that is your heart’s desire, that you cry, and weep over not being there. I know because I’ve been there. I’ve wept frequently over not being able to do what others do. Not being able to do crafts or field trips or nature walks. But God has given me my children and He knew that I would have the chronic pain as well as all the seasons of life that my illnesses would drag me through. Cry out to Him. Ask Him how He would like your homeschool to look in this season. Let go of the perfect picture in your head and go with what He has planned. Perfectionism is the enemy. God has equipped you to be all that your children need. They are learning valuable life lessons from having a parent that is learning and growing through illness.
That was totally not where I saw this post going, but all of the sudden I just had one of those God moments; you know, where you just feel something needs said. That was totally from the heart and the tears were flowing. I pray that touches someone. I really feel that someone needed to read that. So more tips on homeschooling with illness. Right now I’m starting to feel a bit better, not 100% but more good days. So one thing I’ve taken to doing is writing out what we need to do for the day on a whiteboard. I make a little checklist for everyone with what subjects they need to do. This works nice for us instead of a lesson plan book; firstly, due to the fact that we utilize things we get for review so school is constantly changing for us. Secondly, with my illness I never know what my pain will allow me to do that day. So the night before I write out what an ideal day for the next day would look like starting with the essentials at the top such as Bible, math, and language arts. Then as the day wears on and I see we aren’t going to get to things or my body isn’t going to allow it I just erase it. There is something so freeing about being able to erase it. On a dry erase board you can’t even tell it was there and then you don’t have an unchecked box staring back at you. It’s really helped my attitude and feeling inadequate because we don’t get done all I wanted to get done in a day. I just end up seeing all we did get done and feel quite accomplished. Just a little tip from me to you. 🙂
I’ve also started doing some other stuff with my life and organizing that I will be sharing later in the week so stay tuned for that.
Here are some books I’d love to recommend about learning through our illness or a family member’s illness. I highly recommend these.
Both of these were written by the late Kara Tippets, wife and mother who died of cancer way too young. Her writings will make you cry, laugh, and think. Both of them have made me think deeply about my own life and how I handle my illness.
I’m excited to be doing this blog hop with many of my good blogging buddies from the Schoolhouse Review Crew. Make sure to check out the ones from below, not just for their post today but for all the ones they are posting this week. 🙂
Melissa @ Grace Christian School
Michele @ Family, Faith and Fridays
Missica @ Through the Open Window
Monique @ Mountain of Grace Homeschooling
Rebekah @ There Will Be A $5 Charge For Whining
Renita @ Krazy Kuehner Days
Sarah @ Renaissance Mama
Sasha @ Such a Time as This
Tawnee @ Adventures in Homeschooling
Tina @ Desperate Homeschoolers